Internal Dialogue

Paying Interest on Insults

Pre-emptive self-deprecation is an attempt to soften a blow that hasn't landed. It trains others to discount your contribution before you've even spoken.

Decoding Your Inner Voice

The Subtle Saboteurs

Our inner critic often speaks in familiar patterns, echoing past experiences or anxieties. Identifying these habitual phrases is the first step to disarming them.

From 'Sorry to bother you' to downplaying achievements, these micro-invalidations seep into our self-talk, shaping how we perceive our worth.

Practical Adjustments

Rewriting the Script

Replace 'Sorry to bother you' with 'Thank you for your time'.

A simple shift

Your opinion matters; don't apologise for expressing it.

Assertive clarity

Acknowledge your achievements without pre-emptive self-deprecation.

Quiet confidence

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